We’ve all heard of the saying “People come into your lives for a reason, season or a lifetime”
I believe this is so true.
I consider everyone I come into contact with as a teacher on my life’s journey, even when the “lesson” I need to learn is painful.
To all my friends, exes and family, this one’s for you:
This poem “Reason Season Lifetime” says it all…
By: Brian “Chew” Chalker
People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
Valentine’s Day is a wonderful holiday to celebrate, I know a lot of single people who cringe at the thought of spending this day alone when couples are out and about being all gooey and stuff…
I bet a lot of you single folks out there in Cyberland think about Valentine’s Day this way:
As a person who spent many a Valentine’s Day alone in my younger years, I also used to cringe whenever this day would roll around but after a while I found I could have a lot of fun by pampering myself on this day, too…
HOST A SINGLE’S VALENTINE’S DAY PARTY
Invite your single friends to a Pro or Anti-Valentine’s Day party and meet up at a restaurant like in the 2010 movie “Valentine’s Day” like Jennifer Garner’s character…
Below is the YouTube link to this hilarious scene in the 2010 movie “Valentine’s Day” where Jennifer Garner’s character makes it known how much she dislikes Valentine’s Day so much she hits a heart pinata’ with all her might at her “I Hate Valentine’s Day” party:
YOU CAN ALSO HOST A
“NATIONAL SINGLES AWARENESS DAY PARTY”
HEALTHY SELF-LOVE AND BEING INDEPENDENT ARE PART OF THE JOURNEY OF LOVE…
Pamper yourself: Go to a spa, take yourself out to dinner or meet some friends for dinner, buy yourself flowers and/or something special, YOU ARE WORTH IT…
Everyone wants a stable, loving partner and a partner is a mirror reflection of what you feel about yourself,
so treat yourself well! What you think, you are and will attract the same to yourself…
PEEL AWAY THE LAYERS OF THE PAST THAT HOLD YOU BACK FROM GIVING AND RECEIVING LOVE…
Forgive and set yourself free from past hurts and the people who hurt you…
We all live a duality, our dark and light sides.
We know both our angels and personal demons…
We need to reconcile with both sides.
CHANGE THE VOICES INSIDE YOUR HEAD, MAKE THEM LIKE YOU INSTEAD
I can’t praise the artist Pink enough for writing her very healing song “Perfect” as she makes it clear that people need to stop the negative self talk and to love themselves unconditionally.
Thank you Danielle S. for this quote:
“We need to move from seeing to believing to believing what we see which is necessary for manifesting those positive changes .”
In the video below titled “Attract Love: Valentine’s EFT Tapping”, David Childerley talks about how you can heal and love yourself and in return, attract someone who will love you unconditionally.
Brad Yates will then do an Emotional Freedom Tapping exercise to change negative subconscious programming into love for yourself which will attract someone of the same energetic vibrational match.
I feel external markers are the noticable things we don’t like about ourselves to make the changes we wish to do for ourselves.
They don’t define us, they shine a light on the lessons we need to learn.
There’s a way to do this, on my journey of self-discovery I have learned from the following:
FIRST STEP: GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY BY NOT SETTING LIMITATIONS ON YOURSELF
SECOND STEP: DON’T EXPECT TO BE FULFILLED BY SOMEONE ELSE, IT IS UP TO YOU TO FILL WHATEVER VOID NEEDS TO BE FILLED WITHIN YOUR SOUL.
Best-selling author Shakti Gawain wrote a magnificent book named
“Living In The Light: A Guide to Personal and Planetary Transformation”
Shakti drives home the point that the “old school” way of finding our soul’s happiness was external and through your partner which results in disappointment.
Whatever void we are feeling, we are going to attract a partner with this same void, mirroring our “need” not a “want” type of relationship.
All relationships are mirrors for the way we feel about ourselves.
I’ll quote Ms. Gawain:
Relationships in the old world have an external focus- we try to make ourselves whole and happy by getting something from outside ourselves. Inevitably, this expectation results in disappointment, resentment, and frustration.
Either these feelings build up constantly and cause continual strife, or they are suppressed and lead to emotional numbness. Still, we cling to relationships out of emotional insecurity, or go from one to another searching for that missing piece that we haven’t yet found.
In the past, most people were willing to hang onto an essentially dead relationship for an entire lifetime because it gave them physical and emotional stability
We’re willing to let go of old forms to search for these ideals, but we don’t know where to find them.
Most of us are still looking outside of ourselves sure that if we just find the right man or woman to be with we’ll be blissfully happy.
We must move forward into the unknown to create a whole new level of relationship: the one with ourselves
Relationships are not outside- they are inside of us; this is the simple truth that we must recognize and accept.
My true relationship is my relationship with myself- all others are simply mirrors of it.
As I learn to love myself I automatically receive the love and appreciation from others that I desire. If I am committed to myself and to the truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another.
Enjoying my own company allows me to have fun with whomever i’m with and feeling the aliveness and power of the universe flowing through me creates a life of passionate feeling and fulfillment that I share with anyone with whom i’m involved.
By this I mean really go within and see what makes you…Well, you…
THE YIN/YANG PRINCIPLE: BALANCING YOUR MALE AND FEMALE INFLUENCES
Men and women both have Yin/Yang aspects of ourselves a.k.a. Male/Female aspects
The Yin/Female aspect of ourselves is receptive and intuitive while the Yang/Male aspect of ourselves are masculine and active
To balance these energies, we must let the female aspect of all of us to guide us with her intuition and let the male aspect of ourselves to take action on this intuition.
I realized that I am utilizing my male aspect of taking action and not listening to my female intuition.
This explains a lot of why many times I felt powerless, I had very little direction and was not listening to my intuition, my own truths which I have suppressed for so long…
BALANCING YOUR TYRANT/REBEL
The tyrant side of ourselves always want to get things done while the rebel says “No, take it easy!”
We balance these aspects of ourselves by setting realistic goals and pacing ourselves.
BALANCING YOUR VICTIM/RESCUER
The victim in us wants to be rescued from the harshness this world can give us, the problem is we put all the blame and our responsibilities onto someone else, which is not fair.
The rescuer assists the victim and takes on way too much, causing bad feelings, resentment and self-neglect…
I am a rescuer, I find I attract victims to myself and i’m all too happy to help them, but one problem kept surfacing: I wasn’t taking care of myself, I was ignoring my needs and getting myself lost in other people’s lives.
I wasn’t living my life in balance…
The key word here is BALANCE in all the above aspects we all have.
Once again I will quote Shakti Gawain:
What does it mean to take care of yourself? For me it means trusting and following my intuition. It means taking time to listen to all my feelings-including the feelings of the child within me that is sometimes hurt or scared-and responding with caring, love, and appropriate action. It means putting my inner needs first and trusting that as I do this, everyone else’s needs will get taken care of and everything that needs to be done will get handled.
Here are a few more ways to get to know yourself:
ASTROLOGY gives you an accurate portrait of your personality traits and is great to check compatibility between two people…
Like a sparkling diamond, our personalities have many facets…
We have a Sun Sign that is ours since the moment of birth, mine is Saggitarius, this is my soul, I love expanding my knowledge, typical of a Saggitarian…
The Ascendant, or rising sign is what people see you as, mine is Virgo, I give the appearance of organization
The Moon Sign, is our emotional side, mine is Cancer, very nurturing and a homebody.
Simply, your sun sign rules your personality—it’s your soul. Your moon sign rules your emotional core—it’s your heart. Your rising sign rules your outer appearance—it’s your book cover.
A great site that explains all of these more fully is Divine Caroline:
NUMEROLOGY is the same, only you calculate your birthdates and names for compatibility.
Here is the site I use:
PAST LIFE REGRESSION gives you insight on what in your past (this life or before) situations are holding you back…
A well-known healer who does Past Life Regressions is Dick Sutphen and he has a wonderful list of
e-books you can instantly download as well as regression audios you can use at home.
Here is Dick’s site:
Contemplation, spending time alone, writing down things that you feel are holding you back.
NOTE TO SELF: TREAT YOURSELF WITH UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
FORGIVING AND RELEASING YOURSELF AND OTHERS
Emotional Freedom Tapping: This is saying positive affirmations while tapping your accupressure points, very effective…
David Childerley leads you in a short, instructional video on forgiving yourself and releasing fear using a Huna (Hawaiian) method of Emotional Freedom Tapping.
Instead of dreading Valentine’s Day when you’re not with a partner, take this day to nurture and pamper yourself, but most importantly love yourself right here, right now.
I look very much forward to your feedback and shared experiences, I hope this Valentine’s Day you will go down the path of love, your own special journey to self awareness and most of all, self love as you will attract someone who is going to treat you with the same love and respect you give yourself.
This is only the beginning, treat yourself with unconditional love and see all the good you’ll get in return for when you emanate love it comes back to you ten fold…
Enjoy your journey on the path to self-love!
Have a Happy and Nurturing Valentine’s Day!
Happy New Year 2012!!!
A newer, brighter year and Earth Cycle has begun…
THESE TIMES, THEY ARE-A-CHANGIN’…
Folk Singer Bob Dylan wrote and sang this song about the historical changes made in the 1960′s which I feel applies for today, too…
Below is a link to this song:
WE’VE WITNESSED HUGE CLIMATE, SOCIAL AND ECONOMIC CHANGES THAT STARTED IN 2011…
We’ve heard much about Global Warming and it’s effects on our planet. Also, a lot of birds seemed to have dropped out of the sky because of the changes in the Earth’s magnetic/gravitational field. These are all symptoms of a changing planetary cycle, not the end of the world.
The article below is a positive one about the Earth’s magnetic field being younger and stronger than we think…
DECEMBER 21st, 2012 THE END OF THE MAYAN CALENDAR, NOT THE END OF THE WORLD…
Here is an article by NASA that illustrates this point:
This past April 2011, I made a trip to one of the Mayan Ruins of Chaccoben, there our guide Diana, a Mayan herself, explained that a new cycle for the Earth would begin and that the popular myth of world destruction is just not true.
I’d say that is something to look forward to and Metaphysicians say the same thing. We are leaving the Piscean Age and going into the Aquarian Age, one of unity, charity and compassion.
Daniel Akner is a Master Psychic who explains the upcoming “shift” not only with our planet Earth but also the shift in our perception of things 2012 has in store for us all…
Here is a link that will explain this more in detail:
THE DEATHS OF WAR MONGERS IN 2011: NOT A COINCIDENCE…
Terrorist Osama Bin Laden and his accomplices, Mohammar Ghadaffi and most recently, South Korean Leader Kim Jong Il, whose many threats of Nuclear war made many of us cringe.
To me this is not all coincidence, as we are currently in the process of Transformation, a new Paradigm Shift, meaning less about material wealth and power and more about service and sacrifice for the betterment of others.
Like Bob Dylan sang his famous song “Times are a changin” back in the 1960′s, these are times of rapid change and I say for the better.
The Occupy Movement
Last September 17th, tired of “Corporate Personhood” and inspired by the recent uprising of citizens in Egypt and Tunisia for a better government, a large group of people in a movement named “Occupy Wall Street” decided to peacefully assemble at Wall Street District’s Zuccotti Park in New York City that has sparked “Occupy” movements all over the U.S. as well as England and Spain.
For more information about Occupy Wallstreet, here is their site:
Just this past October I was in my very first march protesting Corporate Personhood with Occupy St. Pete, it really felt great to be a part of this paradigm shift happening right now.
NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS WILL BE MADE, TIME FOR A BRAND NEW START TAKING US FROM TRANSITION TO TRANSFORMATION:
BUTTERFLIES ARE UNIVERSALLY KNOWN AS A SYMBOL OF TRANSFORMATION, AS THEY START OUT AS A WORM, TRANSITION IN A COCOON AND THEN EMERGE TRANSFORMED AS BEAUTIFUL BUTTERFLIES…
IT’S MY OWN PERSONAL BELIEF THAT 2012 WILL BE A TRANFORMATIONAL YEAR FOR EVERYONE AS WELL AS OUR PLANET BECAUSE BOTH THE EARTH’S MAGNETIC FIELD AND OUR OWN PERSONAL MAGNETIC FIELD CALLED OUR AURIC FIELD WILL BE IN TUNE AND A LOT OF THAT HAS TO DO WITH A POSITIVE SHIFT IN THINKING.
The link below is my very first sermon named
“Shift Happens: Change Your Thoughts To Change Your Life”
In this video I show how just a simple shift or change of thought pattern can change your life, I have included an exercise to help release negative thought patterns and talk about both the Earth’s magnetic field as well as our own a.k.a. “The Human Auric Field”…
NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS: COMMITTING YOURSELF TO NEW BEGINNINGS…
Whether it is a desire to lose weight, make amends with other people or just want to make a brand new start in life, taking it one day at a time is the best way i’ve found to make positive changes.
I first heard of this through Louise L. Hay’s book “You Can Heal Your Life”
as a way of changing your auric field and healing you mentally, physically and spiritually.
I do this everyday and it helps tremendously.
The best results are when you stand in front of a mirror and state positive things about yourself.
I like to say:
“I’m safe, i’m loved, i’m blessed by God above”
Emotional Freedom (EFT) TAPPING
This is tapping on your acupuncture points with your fingers while saying different affirmations.
David Childerley has excellent healing EFT videos on a variety of subjects, below is one about forgiving yourself and taking back your power from fear…
NUMEROLOGY: CALCULATING A HAPPY NEW YEAR
Last year for New Year’s 2011 I had published this blogpost about what Numerology calculates for our upcoming year ahead…
I’ll show you an example:
I’ll add my birthdate November 30th
I’ll then add the New Year 2012
I’ll add my birthdate number 5 to the New Year number 5
Which is 10 (anything above 9 gets broken down and added again)
Giving me a Number 1 year of New Beginnings for the next cycle of 9 years.
After calculating your birthdate and the year 2012 numbers click on the chart below which will tell you what is in store for you this upcoming year:
© Michael McClain 1996-2010. Permission is granted for unlimited noncommercial use.
I WISH EVERYONE A HAPPY, HEALTHY, ABUNDANT AND TRANSFORMATIONAL YEAR, EVER!
Spread your Butterfly wings and fly!
When you’re feeling stressed out and need relief the best thing to do is go for a walk in nature.
Negative Ions are particles of energy found in nature and are very beneficial for healing your mind, body and soul…
High levels of negative ions …
Are desirable. They’re naturally found in places like the beach, in the mountains, in the country, in pine forests, near waterfalls, and many other places that people like to be — all the places that we feel good after we visit them.
“…Negative ion exposure appeared associated with feeling better about self, less sensitive, and more responsive or innervated (energized).”
Journal of Aviation, Space, and Environmental Medicinee
Depression & Mood
Negative ions also have been shown to help lift mood, alleviate depression and seasonal affective disorder (winter depression or SAD). There is even a patent by a prominent researcher and institution for the treatment of depression with negative ions.
MORE INFORMATION ON NEGATIVE IONS AND NEGATIVE ION GENERATORS:
A REALLY GREAT SONG THAT ILLUSTRATES YOUR MOOD BEING LIFTED WHILE BEING IN NATURE IS THE SWEDISH GROUP “ACE TO BACE” SINGING
“It’s a Beautiful Life”
The lyrics say it all…
Take a walk in the park when you feel down
There’s so many things there that’s gonna lift you up
see the nature in bloom, a laughing child
Such a dream…Ohhh it’s a beautiful life…
It’s been officially Autumn for a few days and it’s got me thinking about the newer, fresher crisp air and of course, the bursting bright colors of falling leaves that always seemed to “crunch” below my feet.
I love nature and especially Autumn, it’s always been a magical time of year for me and it got me thinking about all those times I sought solace in the parks on Long Island, NY. and how much better I felt walking around, observing nature and snapping a lot of photos.
This would snap me out of any “funk” I was in…
Popular Musician Jason Mraz sings “Outdoors” to the tune of his famous song “I’m Your’s”
and sings about the happiness you get from being outdoors…
Three Dog Night sings “Out In The Country”
This song really expresses how healing nature is, the lyrics say it all:
Whenever I need to leave it all behind
Or feel the need to get away
I find a quiet place, far from the human race
Out in the country
Before the breathin’ air is gone
Before the sun is just a bright spot in the nighttime
Out where the rivers like to run
I stand alone and take back somethin’ worth rememberin’
Whenever I feel them closing in on me
Or need a bit of room to move
When life becomes too fast, I find relief at last
Out in the country…
It’s always nice when the seasons change, the landscape changes into many palettes of color.
Whether it is The white snowy Winters, The pastel colors of Spring, The bright colors of Summer or the beauty of Autumn, you’ll find yourself getting a lot of mental, emotional and spiritual healing looking around at nature’s finest art…
Photo by Indira Jaigobind ©2010
Eva Cassidy sings “Who Knows Where The Time Goes?” a song about the changing seasons.
If you are artistically inclined nature can calm and clear your mind and also inspire your music, art and writing…
Below are two poems that I wrote after enjoying nature:
My poem “Autumnal Bliss”
Photo by Susan M. Sabella © 2007
Crisp, colored leaves whirl around my feet
The palette of colors on all the old oak trees look so neat
Candy apples, pumpkin bread and cookies taste oh so sweet
This is autumnal bliss, where summer ends and it’s time to slow down
Enjoy the cooler weather and enjoy going into town
Reap the rewards of nature’s bounty
Take a sip of hot apple cider with a stick of cinnamon
Time to go within
Enjoy the moment and let it sink in
Take a stroll in a park, breathe…
Let the gentle Autumn winds caress and take you away…
Let your mind stray
Notice how each leaf on the tree changes
Much like how life rearranges
A new beginning comes from another end
A new journey is up around the bend
Fall Splendor, A time to render
All the possibilities Life has to hold
For this is Autumnal Bliss
To remind us to go within and seek what we need to find
Fulfillment and peace of mind
© Susan M. Sabella 2010
Photo by Susan M. Sabella © 2010
My Poem “Nature’s Elixr”
The ultimate fixer
Mind, body and soul
Senses become ignited
Your soul becomes excited
Let nature take control
You walk outside, feel that breeze, through your hair and through the trees
Take a walk on the beach
Feel the sand between your toes
Making you feel good
Taking away all your woes
Like a butterfly you will transform
You’ll feel calm after any storm
© Susan M. Sabella 2011
Photo by Susan M. Sabella © 2010
I hope you take some time today to get some fresh air and take in those Negative Ions for healing your mind, body and soul.
Before you know it your spirit will be soaring like the Seagull in the photo I took above…
START BY CELEBRATING ANOTHER DAY OF LIVING…IT’S A BEAUTIFUL DAY, DON’T LET IT GET AWAY… YOU’RE FREE TO CREATE A BETTER DAY FOR YOURSELF… START RIGHT HERE, RIGHT NOW… NO BETTER TIME THAN THE PRESENT… YOU’VE GOT THE POWER! REMEMBER, IT’S A BEAUTIFUL LIFE… Have a great day and remember, it starts with you :)
We’ve all heard the saying “everything happens for a reason” but often it doesn’t quite feel that way when things go on the wayside, does it?
It’s all about how we perceive things. Either we learn from our situations and move on and help others or we get stuck in a rut “stewing” about it.
I used to be a very judgemental person until I had a slice of my very own Humble Pie.
I used to wonder what made a person goe from “point A” to “point B” on their life’s journey like a homeless person or an addict.
I used to ask myself “Why can’t he/she fix the problem by just doing what they are supposed to do instead of not forging ahead?”
WALK A MILE IN MY SHOES
Joe South sang this song in the early 1970′s about not passing judgements and about putting ourselves in someone else’s “shoes”…
Well, folks, I soon found myself in a predicament with my home in New York.
I got very, very ill and almost lost my life 3 times.
In that space of time, my house in New York went into Foreclosure three times as a result of bureaucratic red tape getting my pension and social security, although ultimately it was saved by my tenacity to fight for my home and show other folks that our homes are still worth fighting for.
My ex-husband John and I won this battle and were mentioned in an article in The Wall Street Journal titled
“Home Or The Holidays”
By Reporter Ann Zimmerman
We got such a huge response from folks wanting to help us. We were overwhelmed by the kindness, encouragement and generosity of everyone who wanted to help.
YOU GOTTA WALK THROUGH THE DARKNESS TO GET INTO THE LIGHT
At first we were embarrassed about our situation but ultimately realized that other people needed to hear our story.
In our journey to keep our home, John and I came to find that so many people out there were giving up and letting their homes be foreclosed upon.
Many times John and I wanted to give up, we were going to be homeless and were filled with despair, we now knew what it felt like to feel defeated and broke as i’m sure a lot of homeless people that were in our situation are feeling now.
Indeed our house situation had humbled us as we didn’t even think about or forsee falling behind in our payments however, we found peace in knowing that by sharing our difficult and embarrassing situation that it in turn has helped countless of other people who were about to just walk away from their homes and gave them hope.
The next phase in my life was dealing with my addiction to food…
NOT an easy subject for me as I was trim and attractive until 6 years ago in 2005 I had started to gain a lot of weight between my hormonal problems such as High Cortisol (The stress hormone) and overeating almost to the point of getting sick…
I didn’t realize how bad it got until one day I looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize the person staring back at me.
I got upset and was embarrassed by my appearance.
Talk about literally eating my Humble Pie…
I used to judge people that are overweight by thinking to myself “Why doesn’t he/she just simply cut down on what they eat?”
It’s not as easy as we think.
There are people who overeat for protection from their past and present associations with people who have hurt them mentally, physically or sexually by building a wall of flab as a buffer.
There are also a lot of people who have glandular and hormonal problems, too and have a terrible time trying to lose weight.
As a sensitive person myself, I do this because i’m like a human sponge absorbing other people’s emotions and take on their problems and food for me is like a sedative.
My boyfriend Lee told me about a discussion group for a new book
by renowned New Age author Marianne Williamson named
“A Course In Weight Loss”
This amazing author and book delve deep into your soul and psyche and gets to the root of what we’re holding onto that is just not serving us and shows up in our bodies.
I was so lucky to be a part of this discussion group, I was able to go through the book not only by myself but with a new group of women who shared their experiences and became my friends…
I strongly suggest joining a Meetup group for this book in your area, just type in A Course In Weight Loss for the group and then your zipcode…
I was anxious to try it as it has similar principles as “A Course In Miracles”
I wanted to lose the weight in a spiritual way as crash diets that made me binge eat just didn’t work for me anymore.
I am happy to say that I have now lost 26 pounds and maintained this weight loss even though i’m still on my journey to losing another 45 pounds.
I lost 6 of those pounds while being on a cruiseship, talk about phenomenal!
I HAD MY HUMBLE PIE AND ATE IT, TOO…
I had the honor of speaking to Marianne Williamson on the phone with my group and had an amazing breakthrough, she really got into my mind and i’m usually a tough, stoic person that doesn’t show much emotion, however, I cried like a baby and released much of the pain I was holding onto for the past 30+ years and I lost some weight, to boot!
Here I was sobbing to a woman who is Oprah Winfrey’s friend, talk about a slice of humble pie!
That was indeed a miracle for me to feel emotions again as i’ve learned very well as a little girl how to hide and cover up things I was feeling.
It felt great and very liberating to honor my emotions again, and…admittingly…humbling.
I just wanted to sum up here that sometimes we need a slice of humble pie to remind us not to be so judgemental of others as they’re on a whole different journey of their own and they’ll get there in the time they’re supposed to, not our time…
I’ve also learned that only when asked from someone else to help them is when I should step in.
Honor and respect everyone as they’re fulfilling their life’s purpose in their own time…
Lessons learned, karma burned…
I wish you all peace and happiness on your journey